Being a mom and wife comes with so many challenges! Today’s post is a bit different from what you might normally find on Pennies Into Pearls. But the topic is so important and I hope that it can help anyone who finds themselves feeling hopeless!
Nick from MormonChannel.org is here to help us out. Thanks Nick for being a guest today!
Relief vs. Regret: the Power to Choose Your Outlook on Life
Lindsay was so excited to be a mom. But those feelings of excitement and love quickly started to fade once she actually became a mom and postpartum anxiety and obsessive compulsive disorder hit her.
As these dark thoughts and overwhelming feelings set in, she had a choice to make—she could either suppress them and deal with a life of regret if she snapped on her child or husband, or she could find relief by getting the professional help she needed. Lindsay decided she wanted to again look at her life with excitement and joy, so she used her power to choose and faced her postpartum anxiety and OCD by getting professional help.
Like Lindsay, we all go through difficult situations. And like Lindsay, you have the power to choose your outlook on life no matter what it throws at you. It doesn’t matter where you’re at in life or what time of the year it is, you can transform your negative outlook to a positive one; you can find relief rather than regret. And here’s how.
When all you do is complain about your life, your life is going to be horrible. It doesn’t matter whether you grumble that it’s raining for the third day in a row or that your boss gives you too much work, complaining is complaining. And complaining and feeling sorry for yourself won’t give you a positive outlook on life. It makes you depressed and makes you feel like your life is terrible, even though it really isn’t. So make the choice, right now, to stop complaining.
List your blessings.
One way to quit complaining every day is to write down your blessings. Sometimes it isn’t until you write them down that you actually see how blessed you really are. Make it a goal each night to write in a notebook or make a list on your phone of two or 10 good things that happened to you that day. These blessings can be small or big, such as your dirty roommate actually doing her dishes or getting engaged. Whenever you have a bad day or negative thoughts start creeping into your mind, look back on this growing list.
Think and speak positive thoughts.
Replace those negative thoughts about yourself with positive ones. Instead of thinking “I’m not pretty enough,” tell yourself “I’m healthy and happy with how I look.” Instead of always thinking that you won’t be successful on that paper or project, think that you can and will be successful with it. Your life’s outlook is highly influenced by your thoughts, so think positive thoughts, and then say those thoughts out loud to reaffirm them to yourself.
Let go of the past.
The past is in the past—keep it there. Don’t waste your time thinking about what could have happened if you would have chosen that instead of this. You didn’t make that choice, so you don’t really know what could have happened. From now on, let the past stay in the past, take positive actions and live a life you love.
Use your power to choose, and coupled with confidence in yourself, you can live a positive life of relief instead of a negative life filled with regret.